Jia Cuixia diplomats story

46-year-old Gu Cuixia a diplomat's daughter, but also a diplomat's wife, Chinese and foreign cultural exchanges in her own work. In 2001 with her husband in France, which were diagnosed as suffering from breast cancer.


"I do not understand French, but I did understand that the French doctor has said that proportion, I have studied medicine, my intuition tells me he is a cancer." From the day three years ago, Jia Cuixia of life has changed , Began a long hospitalization. Beijing Tumor Hospital in the ward, was Qiequ a breast Jia Cuixia she says with a laugh the most Langbei like to let me see, and asked me wear the black pearl production is not Tahiti, she has a bunch of very beautiful Black pearl necklace, is the husband of a business trip to that island, to buy her.

"The doctor said I was a very good patient"

Serving a two analgesics, Jia Cuixia Gen Woliao since the beginning of her illness, calm and optimistic like you forget she is the protagonist of this disease.


China today: Members of your evaluation is "strong" is not because the doctor tell you that this condition will help the recovery »


Jia Cuixia: I am optimistic about this group of people born, I just been diagnosed with cancer, the current Chinese ambassador to France Zhao Jinjun on behalf of the embassy to come to visit me at home, he is very solemn and wearing a suit and looked solemn, very seriously and I talk about: Do not have too much pressure to have the courage to overcome his illness…… At that time, I was Doule, persuaded him to say: OK, this is not what amazing things.


May be a small cultivate the habit, and I may also be relevant as a soldier, in the face of one thing I can think of the past, no big deal; I like to seize the initiative themselves, that one thing, I am sure to do a good job . The same disease, in accordance with the principle of doing things my life, is sick, I am also an excellent patient, a doctor with good will, understanding the disease and take the initiative to adjust their own.


China today: former Chinese Ambassador Wu Jianmin said the law you are "a great woman."


Jia Cuixia: as an outstanding diplomat, Ambassador Wu, the feelings of people around them, and his sensitivity to international relations is the same. He is very concerned about the relationship between colleagues, concerned about everyone in the embassy different location and the role played by each of his personal support for the work of the embassy have seen very heavy. I confirmed the disease after treatment, the most in need of family care, when France went to Shanghai 2010 World Expo bid to bid to become the primary work of the embassy at the time, as the Embassy Counselor and Director of the Office of the husband is responsible for a large number of hospitality and logistics Coordination. I do not have the disease because they distracted him, he fully into the work. As a diplomat's daughter and his wife, I think this is very normal, because diplomacy is no small matter, the country's interests above all else, let alone I am a cause of special value, no matter how much personal things can Fang Dexia, But work can not be put aside. Shenbo success of that moment, her husband first called me, he moved to tears, I thank for his support. I Miss Ambassador to the rise of such acts to a small to large to the embassy of the country's diplomatic cause a high degree of support, he thought I was the spirit, attitude to life has played the role of wife of a diplomat.


China today: the first place may not have the breast removed? »


Jia Cuixia: No, found the lymphatic cancer cells have. This means that the cancer cells anywhere in the body may have. In between the beautiful and life, to choose life, not life-how can they talk about beauty. But a woman speaking the truth in this difficult time for customs clearance, I was very mention of Amy. But it also has relations with age, if placed on 10 years ago, I might have another kind of choice, some may age more "pragmatic", life is the first.


China today: Your condition is very special, chemotherapy for nearly three years »


Jia Cuixia: breast cancer in cancer is a relatively light, the doctor said I in patients with breast cancer, is a rare, drug sensitivity poor, a drug sometimes just a few days work, with the Youmei, Basically used conventional medicine, and the optional drug has become increasingly less.


Doctors say, as I can with the treatment of such patients is not easy, is generally a period of chemotherapy should be stopped to rest for a period of time then again, but I can not stop, stop immediately increase the symptoms. Therefore always be in systemic treatment, and local radiotherapy are speaking to me a kind of wishful thinking.


Doctors often fear to try one after the treatment, each will tell me: you must be mentally prepared, we can only be further explored in the past, I do not know have any effect. I have become accustomed to, jokingly told the doctor: If the day you told me I have a certain effect on the drug, I would have to be adjusted to allow themselves to take psychology, this is true? » I Haigen the doctor said, I actively cooperate with and give you a chance to create miracles, I hope you also a pleasant surprise. They said this miracle too difficult, and I said okay, I have to enjoy the best medical conditions.


I am well aware of the seriousness of their illness and treatment are different from the general difficulty, but I still believe that the special medical, scientific development because it is now too fast, perhaps out of a drug, a disease to disappear completely, not the emergence of penicillin Is an example of this » Maybe I can go there one day, and so on.


I have been very fortunate, like what we can do, I always joke that my life may be too smooth, what a good thing God will not let me have a total, so use this disease to punish me, but this ordeal I have too much of it, not yet 2001, 2002, must so long.

"It is no less than illness raised a lot of things"


"I was not pasta, it is a lot of things Fangbu Xia." Jiacui Xia said she liked to think things through, would like to make clear, she said that they did a cool analysis: no worry about the children, her husband has no regrets, except for parents She Fang Buxia heart. Despite the very rational analysis, several times choked with Jia Cuixia not Jiangxia Qu, especially on the children, "rest assured" the reason, she Fanlaifuqu speaking many times. This is where the heart Fang Dexia, she obviously is to convince themselves and in their own ways to advance the future may not be the love child.

China today: It is not thought death »


Jia Cuixia: for the people how the disease may not think of death » A person to this point in time is often shown on the desire of Health, to me speaking, not pasta, it is a lot of things Fangbu Xia.

China today: as mothers, should be the most difficult to lay down their child.


Jia Cuixia: life in the countdown to enter the time, many mothers are the most Fang Buxia children. The son, I have nothing to worry about, no regret, from his living environment, education opportunities and I told him I think the requirements are good, I do not give him lot of pressure to have his own ideas , Has the capacity to differentiate right from wrong. In a certain sense also protect him from the "examination-oriented education" pressure, such as I have with others than children not only let him than with their own, as long as some progress today than yesterday on the line, I do not want his full-grade class row The first few, not because of a decimal point went wrong punish him, as long as he has to figure out the last line on the. Including the now go abroad to school, is wanted him to feel different from a domestic living environment, learning atmosphere and cultivate a learning capacity, rather than a mere accumulation of knowledge. Learning is a lifelong thing, the updating of knowledge so quickly, the key is to learn how to learn. As long as the establishment of a sense of learning, mastered the method of learning, must have the knowledge to guide the future life and work of awareness, learning of a person speaking is not difficult.


I was satisfied with the children, is also reassuring. Because he has a 20-year-old, is the man. I will train from his sense of independence, the boys I think the most important thing is independence, this independence is not only independent daily, including acts of an independent personality. Family and friends feel that he compared the same age children mature, this is my heart for Fang Dexia. Of course, as a mother, no matter how much their children are also children, not to mention he was 20 years old, has not yet entered the community, did not get married……


The children leave come back with me, we more exchanges De Ting, the son of aesthetic choices, the judgement of good and evil, and the point of view, dealing with the problem, let me appreciate and be assured. If one day I have what I will be assured of his son, inner relatively pleased that the children have a more mature, when the mother can not be with him all his life. I told my son to his hope for the future into the community, the study can not give it up, cause some success, full of love. The parents to guide and the opportunity we gave too, so there is no Fangxinbuxia it.


I often speak with the children, sick to my speaking is a helpless, as is the case, you told my mother to understand this process, the enjoyment of the process, understanding this process gives you a positive significance. If carefully to appreciate, and you will have a lot harvest will be rich than others, than others can take the future into the community more independence than others, more aware of the importance of the home, the family's important.


I think the man so that they experienced much experience there will be a sense of responsibility. I chat with my son said, he should cherish this process: this time a few months to accompany her mother in the side, if one day I have nothing wrong, you will be very comforting, because you do its Filial Piety, you will not Remorse and regret. And I was also very comforting, because I get sick child more love. I think this process depends on the children how to understand, how to understand, of course, the children alone will not do, depends on how parents to guide and lead a good, in terms of children is a wealth. He may be the future of life, life will be more concerned about the feelings will be more cherished.


China today: once because of ill feeling great pressure »


Jia Cuixia: After my illness is the most Fang Buxia my own parents. Parents age, this is the time to be unable to sons and daughters, sons and daughters should be done to give them a happy old age, if I can not do, this is a big regret. From this point of speaking, in this disease, my special emphasis on the psychological burden, or even unworthy of their parents……. In particular to Fengnianguojie the time, I should be at home and I can not go home when I will think of ways for parents not to feel desolate, with my approach is to look easy, I let them feel good.


Do you know the parents of sons and daughters of emotion, it is most conditions. I get sick, the thinking is taking advantage of their own dynamic, so that they go to Paris last Peipei their parents not to say anything, I told them I was sick, want to do treatment, my mother within a week on the run all the formalities Rushed to Paris, and this is the mother!


China today: Before I met your President, you talk about the disease deplores

Jia Cuixia: As a husband and wife for more than 20 years, I think we should go now is worth the treasure, a couple, a family can achieve the desired state also requires a process: From the newly married adjustments, and change each other, adjust their own, change The other, received deep-seated mutual recognition, life philosophy, Weirenchushi, the social phenomenon of the judgement, we can reach a consensus and understanding, to communicate, this is a very easy thing, I feel that we have to This realm, you can say run-in in place now, feeling very good in all aspects, can be given on the cause of his support, I think done quite well, so it has no regrets. It has been said I was "helping Cardiff fate", I jokingly told her husband: I help you in this life many, including the illness after another are used in a way to support and help you. However, such support is two-way, especially after the sick, I understand it, "Xiangruyimo" meaning. Over the past three years, I have to bear the physical pain, and he is faced by the spirit of life, work and other aspects of the enormous pressure, but in front of me, he has always been demonstrated by the optimistic belief, this is also a good support I A huge momentum alive.

"Take care of themselves is no longer his kind words addressed"


Jia Cuixia disease that brought her pain, but also gave her time to think about. She said that in their own lives to extract the meaning of health, she often told friends: Institute cherish their own bodies, or too late to regret it. Jiacui Xia said that compared with previous years is now more concerned about health, social progress This is a great performance. She said sometimes feel lucky: If the first five years of such concern and healthy environment, I may not have the disease - of course this can only be based on the assumption that.


China today: as career women, nostalgia is not quite work »


Jia Cuixia: There were several times, I feel better, we can immediately to work, but the doctors always told me: You have to cure. Then I found that the health of a person speaking more important. Also feel that, my sense is not so in place. I say that they are on the brilliant sunshine to the point, sometimes not out on the brilliant sunshine on the. How I say I work on the terms of a temptation. Former colleague called me, a little better, to the company, I will promise a few days should be able, you should understand the appeal of my work, people can experience the joy of self-realization. However, after repeated several times, I found that to be determined no longer to "additive", because it is a


I think that they like a ball, with little effort can make bombs and how high, the young man, regardless of work much more tired, take a break soon be restored to original condition, so desperately to work. Many people on its own understanding is: I still have the potential to be good to play, there are many opportunities to strive to, or lost. In fact, they are simply not aware of advances in health. In a sense, many of the disease is Zizhao.


China today: you are the tell a friend to drink plenty of water »


Jia Cuixia: I now urge the attention of friends body, the past is no longer used impetuous, very Shunzui the cliches, I will be specific to the "you must drink plenty of water, drink plenty of water to detoxification," This drink is the concept of pain I experienced It derives from it: I was not thirsty, fixed cups, it is a very bad habit.


However, the physical capital, the Institute cherish their own bodies, or too late to regret it. If there is a good body, how many things can do! Therefore, we must learn You Zhuodian children, do the things done today, if possible, tomorrow came with his family to travel together, to relax. Now fast-paced life, work and life of the people are great pressure, particularly career women, it's even in the Institute of pressure in the release of their own state, not the master plan, "I will……", his concern about the health of millions let alone the future , From now on is just the beginning.


In addition to life with some experience may be moved by the strength of others. The patients like me, have personal experience of people, to appeal to the people: the concern about under the prerequisite of life, have many other things. No matter how great the cause, the whole body is not good words. But I guess my friends in the wards is a feeling when, out of the hospital on Shenbuyouji.


China today: There is a saying, too delicate feelings of the women-in breast diseases


Jia Cuixia: I wonder if this has the support of medical theories, but I think that makes sense. Now obviously a phenomenon is that the life of habit, determine its risk of a disease.


I kind of character is relatively open, work Pola, but also in terms of emotion is too delicate, small compared Chongqing. You see this person I open the surface, things take a lot of heart.

China today: the sunny side of show to others, and left to their own pain to digest, too many of their commitment to things.


Jia Cuixia: right, just like you sum up this way. I appreciate the comparison a story: two living in the same ward patients, a person's wall beds, another person close to the windows of the beds, because they can not move all day, and around the windows of the wall of the patients gave patients Stresses the window of the scenery: the flowers outside the house, the clothes people wear more beautiful, sunny, light rain is more poetic in his…… on, the scenery always outside the United States. Later, while living in the windows of that person died, the patient asked for the wall near the windows to the bed, a day to themselves to see the scenery outside, he saw the results, the window there are only a wall.


I think that, including myself, like many Chinese women living in the window is the one that's always a lot of things to filter, the US-things appear to others.


China today: Is there any thought about: I do not want to, and I tired.


Jia Cuixia: Yes, but the scoring target, and occasionally in her husband there, "indulgence" to their emotions, and sometimes a special wish to crying, but the parents, children, is not possible